Overcoming  Addiction to Porn

 

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 You Want Me To Do WHAT With That?!

The Life Expectancy of a Relationship with a Porn Addict

by

Lindsay McKinnon

Overcoming Addiction to Porn

from the partner’s point of view.

A fascinating look at the secret world of the porn addict

and the effect their addiction has on those around them.

Written from the heart, with her Liverpool humour helping  to soften some of the punches, Lindsay McKinnon has made this book a very personal encounter, with a very brave and articulate woman. She has not only lived through what she is writing about, she strives  to understand what happened to her, with the help of some of the worlds leading authorities on addiction to sex and pornography.

Unashamedly written for the partner and showing up porn addiction for what it is…….the result of a deliberate campaign using every add man trick in the book and a few that are’nt in there. A multi billion dollar business that hooks thousands of new addicts every day ….a good percentage of them under 16.

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You Want Me To Do What With That?!

 The Life Expectancy of a Relationship With a Porn Addict,

is an in-depth look at the problems of  dealing with ”porn addiction” from the point of view of the partner ….. the porn widow. They often end up in therapy for ;PTSD, in the divorce court (over 53% of divorces now cite porn use in their case) and in extreme cases committing suicide.

Lindsay has had much help and encouragement from many of the top researchers in the field, many of whom can be found on her Chatting with Lindsay. pod casts.

The book has taken  nine months to write and led Lindsay to many of  the counsellors, psychologists and alternative therapists, who assist her in her quest to help partners of porn addicts on the road to sexual and spiritual recovery.

Lindsay has written a humorous and informative manual for staying sane, that is easy to read and will help the reader to deal with the pain of her porn addicted partner’s actions.

The approach is that of a best friend offering support, advice, empowerment and a kick up the ass when required.

Lindsay’s Liverpudlian character shines through in her straight from the hip style.

The reader gets all the facts, from the scientific data (explained in a language you won’t find in any text book), statistics on everything from he rate of employees accessing porn in the work place,to the  alarming increase in the risk of  infidelity and divorce.

There are case studies, interviews and quotes from scientists, psychologists, porn users, partners and even porn performers.

The end of the book is the beginning of the readers new life as she learns how to heal and discovers more about Lindsay’s own            alarming and at times, heartbreaking  journey.

This book will be educating partners of porn addicts for many years to come. I know you will agree.

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Ian Jameson Editor

It has been a long journey from when I first began to write

You Want Me To Do WHAT With That ?! almost a year ago, to where I am now. 

In that year, since leaving my porn addicted partner I have built my website, read numerous books, watched god knows how many documentaries researched countless psychological studies and communicated with people across the world from porn performers to those in positions of power in the governments on both sides of the pond. 

While I was going through my own healing, I learned how badly others had been hurt. In researching the abuse that many partners of porn addicts go through, I also discovered the abuse that so many porn performers go through. 

The reason this book is so effective, is precisely because it was written as I was going through the process of my own healing. 

Everything the partner will feel, everything she will want to know, to understand, every miserable painful part of this journey there will be someone by her side taking the journey with her and understanding all those little things that she cannot seem to make anyone else understand or is too embarrassed to talk about. 

The book will give you a laugh, will make you angry, will make you see your partner’s addiction for what it is and will help you see for yourself through what I did and what many other women have done, exactly what  you are dealing with and the reality of the options you have open to you. 

I researched, interviewed and tried to find answers to all those things that didn’t even begin to make sense to me; like, why would any red blooded male who appeared to have a passion for sex be turned off by it? 

Why would someone, who deemed himself to be open minded and liberal and not stifled by the confines of the prudish way society looks on sex – flinch at a sexual touch? 

Why would a man who declared that I was the greatest of his loves and the epitome of his ideal type - give his sexual attention to anyone and anything but me? 

I had never felt so alone, so betrayed, so confused, frustrated, insulted, unloved, rejected or sexually frustrated as I had in my relationship with him. 

This process of writing this book coincided with the journey I took and many of you will take - From the darkest time of leaving a man I loved to live alone in an empty house without a penny to my name or a stick of furniture to sit on, to being so happy that I begin every day with a huge smile on my face. 

He? He is in exactly the same place he was before – except a few steps closer to bankruptcy and losing his house. He’s still an addict. Like the porn equivalent of Miss Haversham, will probably be found dead, dodger in one hand, mouse in the other covered in cobwebs and surrounded by broken dreams.

 Porn is everywhere, which doesn’t help the addict or the partner, who is surrounded by triggers (you will learn more about triggers in the book). Say anything that is not pro porn though and you are met with a knee jerk reaction of ‘just because you’re a prude doesn’t mean you should take away my enjoyment’ or ‘well you don’t have to watch, just switch channels’ 

Porn has become so prevalent; it’s not as easy as that. Instead of actively seeking out porn if you want to see it, you have to actively avoid it if you don’t; 

Which is specifically why the book, the site and the Campaign are neither pro nor anti porn.

 They are about the harms porn does.

 ‘that makes you anti porn then!’ 

No, it doesn’t. 

Ok, let’s say you took your kid to his new school and on the alphabet pictures placed around the wall you saw R is for Rimming and a graphic display to aid learning. You might think it a little inappropriate. 

Or if they were selling homemade hooch in the school tuck shop, next to the liquorice allsorts and cola, you would wonder at the sanity of the head teacher 

The problem is not with what consenting adults do behind closed doors, or with alcohol, it is with the impropriety of WHERE they are being shown or sold and that they are being placed in front of an audience they were not intended for. 

Having  a problem with someone giving free gin and tonics to two year olds,  does not mean you want all drink to be banned. 

Likewise, having a problem with kids being shown a ‘ho’ being torn a ‘new one’  does not necessarily mean you want to ban all porn.

 In this instance anti porn or pro porn is beside the point

Those who are into porn should be just as concerned with who sees it and the side effects it can have on the psyche as anyone else. Why would that be a problem? 

The research that has been done on the effects of smoking means that people are able to make a more educated decision as to whether or not they are going to smoke.

It’s also meant that non smokers don’t have to be exposed to someone else’s nicotine habit. 

Likewise porn; if the user knows the detrimental effects it can have, it’s then up to them to make a more educated decision as to what they watch, and how much they watch. 

It should also mean that those who don’t want to be exposed to someone else’s porn habit, shouldn’t have to be.

 Primarily, the book and the site are to do with helping the partner of the porn addict, whether porn is here to stay or not, the damage being done by it, needs to be acknowledged and dealt with.

 I’m here to help you  get your mojo back, which his porn habit has trampled all over.

 I’m here to help you see that ‘yes, he is behaving like a total a’hole, it’s not your imagination and it is most definitatley NOT YOUR FAULT.

 The book is humorous, it’s hard hitting, it’s realistic, and it’s about as romantic as your average porno, ie, not at all.

One of you running away from reality to live in a land called fantasy is bad enough.

 In the second part of the intro,  I will tell you more about the Campaign for REAL MEN not PORN EUNUCHS.

 Both, apparently acceptable; the performer is just a ho, she gets paid for what she does therefore, her human rights no longer exist, likewise the spouse of the addict, if she objects to being treated like the ‘ho’ on the screen, she’s a prude, she’s frigid, she’s jealous, so her complaints that what he wants her to do are painful or degrading are dismissed = her rights as a fully paid up partner in this relationship, are  irrelevant and cease to exist.

 I had no problem with porn when I began my relationship with my partner, but I did have a problem with the lack of sex. Eventually, the amount of porn he watched and the type of porn he watched worked like aversion therapy on me.

 There was no reasoning with him though, as there is no reasoning with anyone who is heavily into porn. They become defensive and angry. Like Gollum they defend their precioussss porn to the death.