The trouble with porn on the internet is..........what?

I have just spent the last year watching a a friend of mine grow from a shrivelled defeated urchin to a Bodecian warrior woman, sword and shield at the ready.....(I always hide the blue paint when she comes round.)
Lindsay McKinnon came out of a ruinous three year relationship with a porn addict not as a victim or a survivor but as a Celtic goddess ready to rid the planet of porn addiction and if necessary it's causes.
Her new Ebook ''You want me to do WHAT with that?! The Life Expectancy of a Relationship with a Porn Addict'', which is published this month is not only filled with facts and figures and places to get help with porn addiction issues, Lindsay also adds her personal perspective and usually wrapped it in her dry Liverpool wit.
This book is a great read and designed with the PTSD sufferer in mind......many partners of porn addicts are treated for the symptoms of this disorder......it's easy on the eye and lots of funny images to break up the text, more magazine than book at times.
She manages to give the book a narrative, she wrote it as she herself repaired....and the growth can be heard in the voice of the writer as the book progresses.
When you see figures like 50% of men have a problem with porn in one form or another you begin to realise this is a massive problem not just in the UK but even in the third world.



I watched a BBC documentary where a bunch of African guys are sat around in a mud hut watching American porn and talking about how they go out into the village after and find women to re-enact what they have been watching. Rape in other words.
The days when guys would treasure a penthouse magazine for that pic that really turned him on are gone.
Now we require a million pixels per millesecond to get a similar rush. Familiarity really does breed contempt. The porn addict rages at the screen but has nothing to give a real flesh and blood woman.
The partner of the porn addict rages at at the wall in a society that sees her partner's addiction as ''a bit of fun''.



That ''Bit of fun'' ruins thousands of lives every year and it's getting worse.........The Government have realised there's a problem..thus the new measures to stop porn at source. This would remove quite a lot of vulnerable people out of the direct firing line.
The first thing I heard when this was announced was the civil liberties cry....well sorry I don't think allowing kids access to snuff sex movies is something that comes into the civil liberties arena.
If someone wants access to porn then really it's not such a big thing to expect them to have to ask for it. In hotels you have to ask for access to the porn channels so why not on the porn internet channels. We need to separate this market off from mainstream traffic. It can still be there for people who see it as a freedom thing..but don't come complaining if your kids see a baby being eaten alive.




We need to decide as a society, if images of what ,only a few short years ago , would have been call perverted, are really appropriate for young boys and girls to learn their sexual vocabulary from.



I am not trying to suppress anything or anyone I just think if you wouldn't want your kids to see something, then really the choice should be to turn the porn on ...rather than as it is now where you have to turn it off. It's one question on the sign in stage and it's done. Just cos you want access dent mean there's something wrong with you... it just means that you are taking responsibility for policing the internet use in your household.



It's time we started talking about the elephant in the room and Lindsay's book is a very good conversation starter.



Check out her podcasts with experts in the field of porn addiction on the Chatting with Lindsay page of her website www. dontrewrdbadbehaviour.com